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  • Tara Bennet Goleman

    Just as diamond is coal transformed, so clear awareness can arise from our confusion.

  • Ayn Rand, Novelist, 1905 - 1982

    Happiness is that state of consciousness which proceeds from the achievement of ones values

  • Norman Thomas, 1864 - 1968

    The secret of a good life is to have the right loyalties and hold them in the right scale of values

  • Albert Camus, 1913 - 1960

    If, after all, men cannot always make history have meaning, they can always act so their own lives have one.

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Aspects of Love

This post is a companion to a 5 minute talk given by Jackie at  Ignite Liverpool in January 2016 which is available on You Tube

Love is a many-splendored thing wrote poet Francis Thompson: all you need is love sang John Lennon: whilst puzzled Piglet asked Pooh “how do you spell love?” to which Pooh replied “you don’t spell it you feel it”.

Q. Is that all there is to love – a ‘feeling’?

A. This is one of those times of year when great attention is brought to bear upon love and in the run up to Valentine’s Day it is clear that love can be many things.

Love is big business: estimates of consumer spending on celebrating February 14th  

suggest that in the UK around £1.9 billion will be sucked into the romantic vortex joined by something like $18.6 billion from the US.

Love is risky: get your Valentine’s Day investment wrong and there can be significant penalties. Survey data from some lawyers suggests that divorce petitions rise by 40% at this point in the year – I have seen this referred to as the ‘waiting to exhale’ group….. couples who were deeply unhappy over Christmas but decided to treat Feb 14th as the last chance for their spouse.

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Empathy - that's just soft right?

Wrong. Empathy is hard.

For you and I to be empathetic we have to suspend judgement. We have to let go of finding a fix for the others frustration or pinpointing the cause of their confusion. In that moment we have to open our hearts as well as our ears and eyes to the reality that the world is not wholly as we thought it was – and that is hard.

Empathy matters because it builds connection between people. Empathy can help healing and it can open doors to a different way forward. Dr Brené Brown has carried out lots of good research in this field and has a great short film on YouTube that is well worth 3 minutes of your time.

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Proof of the Pudding

 

The proof of the pudding is in the eating…. or so it has been said for around 500 years at least. So while I am wildly over excited about the reach of this year’s Values at Heart: Peru, India, the US, the UK, Germany, Canada, Australia, Norway and all in less than 5 days; I feel it behoves me to share a little more about all this values stuff which I love so much.

Values sit in the limbic system in the brain. This means that they are closely interwoven with our emotions and form part of how we determine what we feel about things. This area of the brain is unconscious which makes it difficult for us to ‘know’ what our values are just by thinking about them because ‘knowing’ takes place in the conscious mind.

Another aspect of the processing that goes on in the limbic system is that it takes place without using language – no words/vocabulary are involved in formulating the ideas. So even when we feel passionately connected to our values they can be very very difficult to put into words.

Does it matter if we can’t put our values into words?

Well that depends.

 

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Magic & Moments

That’s it then.

Another year done, dusted and packed away with assorted baubles, festive lights and tinsel garlands: would you say it was a good one?

That can be a hard question to answer. For certain every year has its moments some of which may be easier to recall than others. Some moments may have been filled with magic while others were perhaps more of the mayhem variety.

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The Diamond Hidden Within Us


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Diamonds. Strongest, hardest, and the most highly prized crystal to be found anywhere.

Diamonds and the Magma Effect™. A dynamic relationship exists between diamonds and magma